I recently immersed myself in The Gap and The Gain by Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan, and it sparked a profound shift in my understanding of personal growth and happiness. This book presents a compelling argument for rethinking how we measure success, advocating for a transition from Gap-thinking to Gain-thinking. Let's delve into the core concepts, explore the psychological foundations, and examine practical strategies for adopting a Gain-oriented mindset.

Let's chat about something many of us experience but don't often name: catastrophizing. You know, that mental leap from "I made a mistake at work" to "I'm going to get fired, end up homeless, and lose everything." Fun times, right?

We hear a lot about "boundaries" in pop psychology. It’s almost become a buzzword. So, let's call them "safety zones" instead......it's more descriptive of their intended purpose. The idea is the same: setting clear lines about what's okay and what’s not in our relationships.

Let’s break down a concept that many of us have probably encountered but may not fully understand: avoidance coping. I want to dig into what this is, why it can actually crank up your anxiety levels, and what science says about the whole ordeal.

Today, I’m diving into something quite intriguing called affective forecasting and its substantial role in our everyday lives—often in ways we don't anticipate. Affective forecasting involves predicting how we’ll feel in future situations, like whether we'll be happy or sad in various scenarios. But here's the kicker: we're often not as accurate as we think. Let’s explore why this happens and how it’s connected to feelings like anxiety.

Growing up with an emotionally immature parent can shape your personality and your way of dealing with relationships in more ways than one might expect. Let’s break down what it means to have an emotionally immature parent and explore the science behind its impact on you as their adult child.

Why do we judge others? It’s a question that doesn’t just touch on the basics of human behavior but digs into deeper psychological underpinnings. As someone who’s fascinated by how our minds work, I find this topic incredibly rich and full of insights, especially when we connect it to broader themes like anxiety and social interaction.

Have you ever had that feeling after you share something super personal—maybe in a meeting or at a social event—and then suddenly, you wish you could grab those words right back out of the air? That’s what Brené Brown calls a "vulnerability hangover." You go from feeling open and honest to questioning if you spilled way too much. It's like the emotional version of wondering why you thought tequila shots were a good idea last night.

Let's talk about something that gets most peoples' palms sweaty and hearts racing - public speaking. It's one of the most common fears out there! Whether you’re stepping up to the mic at a big conference or pitching an idea in a meeting, the anxiety can be daunting. But don't worry, I'm going to share 6 effective strategies to crush public speaking anxiety. I used all 6 of these techniques when I was preparing for my recent TEDx talk, so I can personally attest to the fact that they're effective.

In this fast-paced world we're living in, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle and forget what truly matters—connecting with others. Not just any connection, though. I'm talking about the real, sit-down-and-talk kind of connection. You know, the type that doesn't involve staring at a screen.

Today, I'm diving into a subject that's all too common in social settings, yet complex in its psychological implications: alcohol. Specifically, I'm exploring its effects on anxiety, the intertwining relationship with sleep, and how a recent movement toward becoming "sober curious" might be more beneficial than you thought.

In the heat of an emotionally charged moment, our instincts often drive us toward an immediate reaction. It's a primal response, deeply ingrained in the fabric of our nervous system, where the amygdala—the brain's fear & anxiety center — takes the helm, steering us into the volatile waters of raw emotion. This is the juncture at which the power of the pause becomes not just beneficial, but essential. It's a simple concept, yet its implications on our personal and professional lives are profound. This blog post delves into the essence of pausing when triggered, highlighting how this mindful intermission can lead us to more reasoned, constructive outcomes.